Catiness

[Shining530]

I thought all the ridiculous immature catiness would go away in middle school... but here i am in high school swamped high with drama and ridiculous girls who need to find a hobby other than making others miserable. please tell me this goes away....

Any comforting words of advice?

[DanaC]

Well, my sister is in college. And when you're in college you find out these same girls make others miserable, and have no friends. These are also the same girls that never keep the same roommate. Soooo.... there might be hope for you yet!!! ;D;

[GregoryJacobs]

lol well in community theater it never does.. people want to be the leads and the main directors so they do whatever it takes to maintain that status.. some people anyways not all

[LizC]

Drama is always there.

What changes is how you react to it.

I got all caught up in drama in high school and in college and in "real life" when i got out of school. Then I decided I was tired of it. I started to pull away from the folks who seemed to always have drama going on and started to move towards the people who had a more calm and centered life. Once the drama was out of the way, there was room to form real friendships. And it also made room to understand when a real crisis happened.

Sorry you are going through something difficult...

[Randy]

Have you read the threads on this board?

You are in theatre. The petty, childish cattiness will always be a part of your life.

[thtrgrl]

think about it you know the inside is wht counts even if they make you feel horrible now look at them and if you ever feel really bad about yourself analyze them and see how much better you have it these people are never going to be happy in life the way you are , most likely everyone dislikes them as much as you. plus high schoolp is only four years of your
(hopefully) very long life. when your older or in college your not going to remember them your just going to remember the fun times you had with your FRIENDS, while these people who constsntly put you down, what will they have to remember except making fun of everyone else instead of just relaxing with the people who could have been they're friends... so just ignore those people don't look them in the eye try to be friends a few times but after that just ignore them pretend they're air. because in the long run this is not your whole life you have a lot more coming your way so hold in there (;

[Author_i_Dee]

I'm sorry to hear you are having such a hard time in school. It can be really hard. I went through that when I was in school. I was definitely a square peg. However, I'd love to run into some of those people now. I have the confidence now to deal with them and I'm not the skinny little twig I was back then.
I respectfully disagree with not looking them in the eye. That is exactly where you should be looking at them... in the eye and with your head held high. The absolute worst thing you can do is let them know they get to you. I'm not saying you have to be in their faces or tell them their just jealous or any of that kind of thing... just be proud of who you are and don't let their childish stupidity get you down. Just know you are better than that. You don't have to say it... the best revenge is just to know it.
Good luck with it all and remember: highschool doesn't last forever.

Dee

[Pandorasluck]

Actually, I went through a similar situation in high school. The catiness and childish behavior experienced in middle school seemed to stop for awhile when I was a freshman at one high school. Then....I switched high schools and felt like I had to start all over again. It was a traumatic experience. What was really sad is that the behavior only seemed to last for about a year, then, I held a grudge for the last three. Even when we have reunions, I have no desire to go back.

It all changed in college. College was a great experience and brought me out of my shell.

Botom line, though, you will experience catiness all of your life. Some people never progress beyond that stage, but they're so unhappy with themselves, they want to make others miserable. Just avoid hanging out with people that drag you down. And if you must, make sure your strong enough to take them to the next level, otherwise, you'll be disappointed or brought down yourself.