All the shows I've done, I've never experienced the "holier than thou" attitude from casts. They know that I know what I'm doing, that I'm there for them, and we are all there for the same reason. When the actors know your capability and have faith in you, they are fine. I guess some of the techs out there have experienced that, You still gotta show them respect and that you can handle the job. They'll see they can trust you and it will be fine. Not teching for a show because of a person's attitude towards you is a copout (especially if its just an actor). I've been a part of all areas of a production (Lead actor, chorus boy, backstage techie, Stage Manager, Assistant Director, Director, designer, musician) and its been fine. I've been with one theatre for about 10 years now and though its been bumpy, I still like working there and hope to continue putting my time there for a while. If you honestly had a bad experience somewhere, don't just quit teching, put your name in at other theatres and tell them you're interested.
My .02 cents
Jeremy M Cales
Route 66, Actors Theatre of Indiana